Top 7 Steps to Breaking Free from Pornography Addiction

As you finish reading this article, you will discover 7 powerful steps to ending sexual addiction.

Now let yourself get in touch with your feelings and discover how to empower yourself with the strength to overcome porn.

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Strength & Hope


Alone, in the silence of the night, I realized that I had a porn addiction that included unmanageable sexual behavior.  My entire system—emotional, physical, and spiritual—had been perverted by pornography and sexually acting out.  I had to change.

Many mornings I prayed and did not feel a thing.  I was determined.  I prayed and prayed and read scriptures and inspirational readings.  I even perused self-help books and prayed some more.  Nothing happened.  Because I relapsed so many times, I still felt insincere even with all my effort.

Days later, I hadn’t looked at porn.  Okay, I thought that I had made progress.  However, that evening, I went on line and had a porn binge.  I became totally disgusted with myself.  After the episode, I saw the bottle of pills.  I knew that if I took the complete bottle, I would be ending my suffering. I would die. I took the complete bottle.

Sometime after midnight, my wife found me unconscious on the floor. Not responding to her.  My granddaughter called 911.  Just in time, the hospital pumped my stomach.  I didn’t die.  I was sent to a psyche ward.

The second morning in the mental hospital, I broke down.  Tears flowed, I shook while I wept and asked God to forgive me.  I told Him that I was sorry.  I thanked Him for his compassion.  I told Him that I love Him.

I forgave myself for trying to take my life.  Gratitude washed over me.  I knew without a doubt that I had to change. I no longer could avoid who I had become.

After I the suicide attempt, I found a therapist, who specializes in sexual therapy, and told him my story.  I also joined a Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) group and continue to share my story.  I learned in the SAA meetings that I had to make a fearless inventory of all of my wrongs.  I also had to confess to someone and to God about my addiction; fortunately these had already happened.  I had to journal the inventory.

I wrote an honest account of my behaviors.  I knew that if I didn’t, I would remain stuck with my limiting beliefs or if I stopped, I would relapse one more time.  I had to admit to myself, God, and someone else that I had an addiction to pornography.  I had to confess my wrongs.  I heard that confession is good for the soul; well, being desperate, I was willing to give it a try.

Why did I do this?  I didn’t have a choice if I wanted to break free from my addiction.

Top 7 Steps to Recovery

  1. Admit my wrongs to myself.
  2. Make a conscience inventory.
  3. Write a fearless account in a journal.
  4. Talk to God about my wrongs.
  5. Tell another person about my addiction.
  6. Attend a support group.
  7. Forgive myself.
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Strength In a Dark Night

Heavens and glory

Demonstrating creation

Grandeur in the dark

Yet, the silence spoke to me

Heart to Heart Came My Freedom

(Inspiration from Psalm 19)

I am still amazed how doing Steps 4 and 5 in the 12-Step Program empowered me to remain sober.  Now, during recovery, I continue to follow the steps.

Since the suicide attempt, 16 months have strengthened my resolve.


Psalms 51


Dale Criswell

How-to Unlock Hope; Say Yes to the Five Benefits of AA & SAA Meetings

As you think about recovery from an addiction,

You become really interested in life.

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January, 2015, I will celebrate one year of attending Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) meetings.

As a result, I have experienced the best year of my life and of my marriage.

I have stopped the objectification of my wife; now, I feel a gratitude for the spiritual strength she demonstrates.

In five days, we will be married 41 years.  I can thank God for guiding us to this point in our lives.  Our marriage grows stronger, every day.

I now have hope.

With the help of others, I can say yes to recovery.

The “Say Yes to Life” principle: “If we choose, we may overcome most of the challenges that face us” (Booth, 2009, p. 3).

Five Benefits of AA & SAA meetings (any Recovery Meetings)

  1. Many people recover from alcohol and sex addiction one day at a time
  2. Families of alcoholics and sex addicts are coming together
  3. Relationships heal with understanding
  4. People are picking up broken pieces
  5. Healing happens for the helper and the helped.

This Year, I Will Continue to Say Yes to My SAA Meetings.

It is the foundation to my recovery.




Albers, M. (2014). Uitnodiging algemene ledenvergadering. VVOJ Vereniging van Onderzoeksjournalisten. Retrieved from

Booth, L. (2009). Say yes to your sexual healing; daily meditations for sex addiction. Deerfield Beach; FL: Health Communications.