How-to Unlock Hope; Say Yes to the Five Benefits of AA & SAA Meetings

As you think about recovery from an addiction,

You become really interested in life.

Featured image(Albers, 2014)

January, 2015, I will celebrate one year of attending Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) meetings.

As a result, I have experienced the best year of my life and of my marriage.

I have stopped the objectification of my wife; now, I feel a gratitude for the spiritual strength she demonstrates.

In five days, we will be married 41 years.  I can thank God for guiding us to this point in our lives.  Our marriage grows stronger, every day.

I now have hope.

With the help of others, I can say yes to recovery.

The “Say Yes to Life” principle: “If we choose, we may overcome most of the challenges that face us” (Booth, 2009, p. 3).

Five Benefits of AA & SAA meetings (any Recovery Meetings)

  1. Many people recover from alcohol and sex addiction one day at a time
  2. Families of alcoholics and sex addicts are coming together
  3. Relationships heal with understanding
  4. People are picking up broken pieces
  5. Healing happens for the helper and the helped.

This Year, I Will Continue to Say Yes to My SAA Meetings.

It is the foundation to my recovery.




Albers, M. (2014). Uitnodiging algemene ledenvergadering. VVOJ Vereniging van Onderzoeksjournalisten. Retrieved from

Booth, L. (2009). Say yes to your sexual healing; daily meditations for sex addiction. Deerfield Beach; FL: Health Communications.

Pornography: Three Reasons Why Seasons Come and Go and Remain the Same

Featured imageI kept noticing a pattern.  The older that I became (62) the more I saw seasons remaining the same.

Having this certainty, I did not feel any comfort.  I became desperate.

I was sure of one thing.  With each year, my pornography addiction became worse.

In November of 2013, the holidays were fast approaching.  That year was the same as any other year; Growing worse was always the same.

I began to view hardcore pornography to get the high that I use to get.  I was appalled by my decline.

There was one certainty in my life.  My spouse’s daily habits were religiously the same.  I knew when I could watch porn.

On November 6, 2013, I found myself online viewing pornography.

I was intent on in finding something new.  I was not sure how long I was online.  Feeling hopeless, I eventually clicked off the net.

I saw antidepressants on the bookcase.  I snapped.

I dumped the entire bottle into my mouth. I realized what I had done, so I spat them out into my trash can.

I looked at the pills; all stuck together on top of printing paper.

What’s the use! 

I reached into the trash and pushed the wet pills back into my  mouth.

In the middle of the night, my wife found me on the office-bedroom floor.

(I don’t sleep with her; the grandchildren do.)

I woke up in the ICU of St. Anne’s Mercy Hospital; having lost time between taking pills and being in the hospital.

The seasons came and gone in 2014, but they were not the same. I had a better year.

Three reasons: Having 1) therapy, 2) support, and 3) Biopsychology to help me with my addiction.

In the next post, I describe how the three reasons helped me.